Getting offended- People look at this so lightly but it has the power to control your whole life if you let it. There are so many people who end up where they are today because they got offended at some point in their life, which can alter the original path they were on, their success, and their happiness. When getting offended, you stop making progress. You see so many people jump from job to job, relationship to relationship, and I guarantee you if you ask them why, they will tell you a reason as to why they weren’t getting treated right. Why THEIR feelings were hurt.
Well guess what- It’s not always about you.
Putting the focus of our emotions on ourselves is prideful. Not taking offense means taking humility. It comes hand in hand. Have you ever been in a situation where you are arguing with someone and you KNOW you are right? And all you want to do is keep fighting to PROVE that you are right? There is so much effort put into these arguments and we need use that same effort to walk in love, because it isn’t always easy, but rewarding. Offense is just a blessing blocker. The devil knows this and uses it to his advantage. When you are walking in love, satan can’t affect you. He needs to get you OUT of love and by doing that, he uses offense.
It is so easy to just say “don’t take offense” when in a situation that can really tick us off, but it goes much deeper than that. There needs to be a root. A secure foundation to stand on. It is simply LOVE.
God tells us to walk in love no matter what. There are so many people leaving churches, holding a grudge against people, etc, but God didn’t change his instructions just because you got offended.
“But you don’t know what that person did to me!” … Do you know what they did to Jesus? Jesus was taken prisoner, beaten, mocked, and crucified. Through it all, he did not take offence. Jesus PRAYED for the people putting him to death. If that doesn’t speak loudly, I don’t know what does.
Luke 23:34- Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they’re doing.”
People spend too much time looking for a reason to love, instead of making love the reason. That’s where we have it backwards. We look for something someone has done first in order to have a reason to love them, instead of loving them from the beginning.
Needless to say, love is the foundation that holds everything together. Just like a house built on sand, a life without the foundation being love will soon fall apart. It is about having the right mindset and making sure your heart is in the right place. Your mind needs to be made up of how you are going to react to trials that come your way. When you let yourself get offended, you are giving up your power.
You have the choice. People have the right to their own opinion and you have the right to ignore it. You may not be able to do anything about the way you feel, but you have total control of the way you react.
Proverbs 19:11 Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense.